Say What You Mean and Mean What You Say

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Too often I come across an occurrence or story where a person is left disappointed at the end. The disappointment comes from one person expecting something from another, and that other person not delivering on their promise, commitment or expectation. This has caused me to ponder…….

What does your word mean to others? 

If I were to survey 10 people close to you and 10 acquaintances, how much value would your word hold? Would people say you follow through on your promises? Keep in mind, these questions are not meant to be judgmental or accusing, but meant to stimulate thought about this subject. 

Even in your personal life, I believe it’s crucial to set the proper expectations with people, your friends, your family, etc.  Don’t let your reputation become one where people don’t expect you too follow through. You don’t have to say “Yes” to everything. In fact, it’s much better to be realistic with your expectations. And if that means telling someone “no”, then so be it. If you can’t make something work, or your schedule is full, or you are spreading yourself too thin, just be honest about it. People will respect your honesty, and they will respect your word.  At first, it’s going to be common for people to become very over sensitive about you turning them down. But trust me, you would rather set the proper expectation up front, then fail to deliver on a faulty promise in the end. 

In my reflection on this topic, I have been able to recall times in my life where I didn’t follow through on what I said I would do.  I’m not perfect, nobody is, but that doesn’t mean we can’t learn from our mistakes or contact an old friend and make it right. Take some time today, even if it’s only 10 minutes and reflect on a time where you might have wronged someone in this way. What are some things you should have done? What are some things you can do better? How can you make it right?

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Say What you mean