Everything happens in an instant and we don't really wait around anymore. The resources we have are unmatched. The ability to do what you want has never been greater. Our society is always on the go. The updates on our phones, the Re-tweets, the favorites, the Instagram likes, the email, and the breaking news. Everything, and I mean everything that we have ever wanted is in the palm of our hands. Pizza? dial it up. Clothes? Amazon. News? Phone apps. But, sometimes we lose sight and forget that great things come to those who delay gratification.
We all want something. If it's something as small as a "like" on a social post or as big as a promotion in your company, we all want it and we want it now. The immediate gratification that we are all attracted to can hinder our ability to appreciate the process. The process of becoming great, getting a promotion, or getting a lot of followers on social media. I am sure you have heard this before; "great things come to those who wait"… I challenge that thought and believe great things come those who are patient and persistent.
The biggest gap in life is where you are and where you want to be, and we aren't patient enough to let things develop. To get to where you are want to be, you got to put in the time, you got to grind, you got to be persistent, and you can't give in. A quick example of patience and persistence, is the process Abe Lincoln becoming the president. Through all of his failures, he delayed personal gratification and put in his time day in and day out to get to where he wanted to be. Here are a list of his political failures before he was elected president:
- Defeated for Speaker, 1838
- Defeated for nomination for Congress, 1843
- Elected to Congress, 1846
- Lost renomination, 1848
- Rejected for Land Officer, 1849
- Defeated for Senate, 1854
- Defeated for nomination for Vice-President, 1856
- Again defeated for Senate, 1858
- Elected President, 1860
We will never regret putting in the time to be great. Delaying gratifications is all about ignoring the "easy road" and taking the road less traveled.
Here are some examples of "immediate gratification":
It takes a while to build muscle mass but if you don't want to put in the time, Take steroids.
It takes a while to study for a test but if don't want to put in the time, make a cheat sheet and pull it out during the test.
It takes a while to build your own business but if you don't want to put in the time, work for someone else.
It takes a while to lose belly fat, but if don't want to put in the time buy some infomercial product that doesn’t work.
It takes a while to build quality relationships, but if you don’t want to put in the time don’t open up emotionally.
Delaying gratification is all about resisting the temptations and desire for a quick reward or easy fix. Go with the flow, do the work, be resilient, embrace uncertainty, and always be intentional.