Influence works the same way as the domino effect; knock one down, they all fall down. Influence one person the right way, everyone will be influenced. The difference is, it doesn't happen as fast flicking your pointer finger. We often don't see our influence take shape because it takes time, a lot of time, for quality change. In some ways, we all want more influence whether at work, home, school, or even with our friends.
Here are three reasons why you don't have as much influence as you would like.
1. Insecurity: You are insecure
Don’t protect your authority. Don’t try and protect the position you are in. Don’t worry about your rank and falling below. If you are good at your job, you have nothing to worry about. Secure leaders understand the importance of training young talent and watching them grow into positions. Secure leaders don’t feel threatened by the success of others. They are confident in the skills set and motivated with energy. They want to see other people succeed and won't go out of their way to trump other people's successes. They are okay with seeing other people shine because they enjoy witnessing the growth people around them.
2. Complacency: Have a fixed mindset
A leader who is always willing to learn. Regardless of your position or rank, are you willing to learn from anyone? Top notch influencers have the ability to find lessons from everyone, even if they are an intern at the new business or a freshman on the team, they are always seeking ways to learn. If you have a fixed mindset, you are constantly validating your self-worth, position, and rank. You are extremely focused on the hierarchy of life. You don't believe in people after one mistake and you definitely don't believe in yourself to step outside of your comfort zone.
3. Afraid: Avoid of Change
Are you willing to change the plans you made because someone else's plan is better? Change leadership is all about trusting your peers and being okay with trying new things. If you are not changing, you are not growing. Its okay to not have all of the answers. Nobody ever achieved anything great by themselves. Use your colleagues as resources and learn from the ideas that might be a little bit different. Together everyone can achieve more if we are all willing to change.
We often confuse influence with power. Power is having the authority to tell people what to do while influence is having the ability to inspire action for the betterment of the group. True influence always begins with the character who that person is. Are you someone who is willing to do right thing no matter the consequence, circumstance, or feeling?
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