Why Don't Habits Stick?

I recently came across a short little book written by James Clear called Transform Your Habits. James Clear is an entrepreneur, weight lifter, photographer and go-getter. His work covers several topics but the central learning point is Habit Change. He believe if you can master your habits, you can master your life. I wanted to share a few a notes on some things that I have learned from his research and studies.

Delay Gratification.

We are obsessed with immediate gratification. In everything we do, we expect over night transformations and ultimate success after one day! We never hear about the process or the struggle people go through to get the success! 

"The guy at the top of the mountain didn't fall there." - Vince Lombardi

It is natural to think about the result, but in reality we should thinking our daily habits. 

Almost any habit you have, good or bad, is a result of many small decisions over time

What you do on a day-to-day basis forms who you are, what you believe, and what image you portray to others. 

James clear often relates to a book called

The Power of Habitwritten by Charles Duhigg. Duhigg believes every habit you have - good or bad - follows a simple 3-step pattern. He calls this 3-step process "The Habit Loop", 

  • Reminder - The trigger that initiates the behavior. 
  • Routine - The behavior itself. 
  • Reward - The benefit you gain.

For example, If you want to be happier, be grateful. Becoming grateful and appreciative of everything around you will help you enjoy everyday. 

Every time you are sitting at a red light, use that as a reminder to say something you are grateful for. Next create the routine, hold yourself accountable at every single red light, and invite others in the car join in. The last part is the reward, the rewardof being happy every single day and grateful for multiple things in your life you might not have realized before.